I was wondering what my parenting style is and what would be the results when my girls grow up. After reading this interesting article here, I was being forwarded to this test online, about different styles by asking these kind of questions:
Do you think it’s important for parents to be strict? Do you think it’s necessary for children to have clearly defined rules? Is it okay for children to act out or disobey from time to time? Based on analyses of several hundred parents, our results revealed three dimensions of parenting styles.
This is the test that I found on the Parenting.com website. Go HERE to do the test yourself!
THIS IS MY SCORE, after doing the test twice this came out, WHAT IS YOURS??
When it comes to: Shaping Their Character ~ You're Involved but Flexible
Involved but Flexible ~ While you believe it's important to set expectations for your children, you're not too rigid about it. You recognize that sometimes they may deviate from your considered instruction to follow their own path, and that's okay. When it comes to modeling behavior for your children, you take it very seriously, but you also recognize and appreciate outside influences that may shape their behavior; they'll learn from situations and people they encounter in the world - the inspiring scout leader, the beloved Sunday School teacher, even the flaky neighbor or annoying kid up the street. Overall, you want your kids to learn the best lessons they can, whether those come straight from you and your spouse, or another source.
When it comes to: Making the Rules ~ You're Authoritative
Authoritative ~ When it comes to setting rules and expectations with your kids, you're the grownup and you know what's best. And since this is the case, it's not really necessary to always explain the logic or rationale behind your rules and expectations. you're also scrupulously fair: you do your best to apply your standards equally to each child. Parents who take this approach believe that it's important for parents to make decisions for their kids and that, generally, rules and expectations shouldn't be open to discussion.
But this also came out of the test when I did it again!
When it comes to: Making the Rules ~ You're a Benevolent Ruler
A Benevolent Ruler ~ When it comes to setting rules and expectations with your kids, you're sort of a benevolent dictator – in the nicest way. When you know what's best for them, there's no need to discuss your decisions. But when it's appropriate, you're happy to take a more democratic approach and let your kids have their say. This kind of combination of firmness and fairness means that you can have open discussions with your children while still being able to assert your authority when it matters.
When it comes to: Enforcing Discipline ~ You're Firm but Fair but also Lenient
Firm but Fair ~ You're firm, but fair. In general, you take an assertive approach to discipline. You think it's best, since being direct lets kids know what's expected of them. At the same time, parents like you indicated that children should be allowed some room to be free and explore; you're happy for your kids to experiment and take chances (within reason), as long as they respect and obey their parents. There's no purpose served by being overly strict.
Lenient ~ When it comes to discipline, your watchwords are tolerance and lenience, and you tend to avoid punishing your children for behaving inappropriately. As far as enforcing rules and expectations goes, lenient parents like you don't think it's necessary to get upset with kids for not obeying instructions. It's certainly not appropriate to use spanking to get children to behave, and could be self-defeating. In your opinion, kids should be allowed to do what they like without being told exactly how to behave.
Do the test by clicking HERE. Be aware that you have to register to see the results.
I find the results pretty good, this is exactly how I parent!
Let me know your results!!
Have a good day,